Are you confusing God

1 Corinthians 14:33 “For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.”

The other day I had a conversation with a friend and he said that ‘we confuse God and that it is a factor for some of the challenges we face as individuals”. That our confusion is the cause of many delays or our unanswered prayers.

This statement is very debatable but here is what I think and it’s open to discussion 🤩

On the one hand, cannot leave in chaos and expect anything good except God breaks all protocol for our sake. On the other hand, we do need chaos to appreciate orderliness.

Different Bible versions put it this way in 1 Corinthians 14:40 MSG

Be courteous and considerate in everything.

1 Corinthians 14:40 KJVS

Let all things be done decently and in order.

1 Corinthians 14:40 Mirror

But let it all happen with discretion and dignity

Some people thrive in chaos and some people embrace orderliness and are organized and laser focused, however knowing how God responds to you is the first of all religious liberation.

Those that thrive in order, know what they want, they have it all planned out and will do anything and fight anyone who stand to disrupt that sequence.

As for chaos, it is faith under pressure. Chaos helps you to appreciate order. Imagine doing a whole lot of things at the same time haphazardly and while it can be both physically and emotionally daunting, just one step in the right direction will sublime that disordered and confusing experience.

In fact some people attribute the success of a thing to its chaotic experience whilst ignoring the “realization moment’ when it all came together. The truth is at some point order came to play.

So, chaos is confusion and disorder, chaos is like mathematics. Imagine yourself trying to solve a simultaneous equation without knowing the formula. you need to work out the steps accurately in order to get it right.

Hence, You are right to be confused because in your confusion, you will find orderliness, courtesy, decency, discretion and dignity in your pursuit.

In conclusion, when someone describes you as being confused, there is a place of order you are reaching out to. God is not an author of confusion, He is leading you towards divine order and profound peace.

Righteous Delays 1

If I have to measure myself on a scale of what was and what now is, I can boldly say GOD IS GOOD.
I probably did not share what inspired me to volunteer initially.
You see I was waiting on God for a breakthrough in my career and profession and life generally and while I was waiting I did not want to be idle. Idleness is a disease so I did not want to be a victim.

I also told myself, that God is not a respecter of location, irrespective of where you are, so far you are in right standing with Christ he will make all things available unto you and prosper you in the land. In fact, I had practically nothing but my brain. So what a way to put it to good use.

What happened after this is still mind blowing, my waiting got worse, everything I had planned to achieve within that period went completely wrong. I was a shadow of myself (well you will never know that lol). My routine was eat, sleep, wake up, read the news (my uncle made sure I do this by providing it everyday lol) and read my books in faith.
Above all, I made sure Christ was at the centre. I made sure that my fear and discouragement did not take away the relationship I had with God.

Sometimes, my aunt will come back from work and put a smile on my face as much as she could (Tiwowo I love you). She will encourage me that it’s gonna get better and of course it did get better.

I joined a youth church, The Rccg Tsp Magodo
and I had the privilege to be a protocol personnel in church. The ambience of the church was so good and by associating with the youth, I became alive again, I found another purpose right there, I met people that we could relate together, share God’s word and grow in it. And God opened the heavens in the midst of service.

The manner with which everything changed still amazes me. God brought me to a deeper relationship with him that I had always avoided. My confidence grew, my passion became alive, my focus was no longer earthly, my perspective changed, I stopped living for myself, I found intercession to be rewarding and impactful, some people hated me for it, while some loved me for it. It did not even matter.

God got me, before I speak, He reveals what he wants me to know and what He needs me to do. It was my story, my journey, my peculiarity, my experience, it was God in me in a new way, it did not matter when I got born again, it only mattered when I developed my personal, intimate relationship with God.

Call it coincidence, but I had to go through that journey. You see, this was just within a year, my journey started long before then but this one was timely and God showed himself mighty!

Yes we preach positivity, but do not allow yourself to be fooled, pain exists, failure exists, lack exists, despondency exists, poverty exist, uncertainty exists, doubt exist, but do you know what factor their existence is based upon? It is FEAR, remove fear from the equation and watch your life transform.
When I say remove fear, I meant you will walk through it, you face it squarely, you will dine with it, you will look at fear in the face and willingly walk through your fears, recognise that it exist and find your purpose.

This story cannot end, because daily opportunities come, challenges come, and fear will show itself. So you have to keep walking, keep trusting, and keep believing. ARISE AND SHINE FOR YOUR LIGHT IS COME AND THE GLORY OF THE LORD IS RISEN UPON YOU.

Be Encouraged

February 2017

On the journey to purpose:

It has been an eventful 4 weeks of my life.
I woke up to a thought to do something worthwhile while God is on duty.
At first, I was beclouded with thoughts of ‘what ifs’ that could go wrong ‘will I be accepted, will it be relevant, is it necessary, what if they don’t need you. However, one thought was constant ‘Just make that call’.

Then I called my alma mater (Lagos State School of Nursing) and I asked if there is any opening for a volunteer teaching opportunity. Alas, I was given the opportunity to teach the final year students.

It was an opportunity to teach and be taught. So much to learn and much knowledge to give away.

The coordinator, the school principal and vice-principal and the academic staff were very supportive. They put me through the concept of teaching and just allowed me to soar, to identify myself and I wasn’t pressurized at all. That was learning indeed!

During this period, I met an amazing set of intelligent, futuristic students who are willing and in sea h of knowledge, who were devoted to the journey set before them. I was privileged to have impacted the lives of this students and I’m proud to say I have them in my corner.

Where am I going with this?
The bible says ‘your gift will make a way for you
You will speak and hear like the learned
An excellent spirit dwells inside of you.
And lots more.

What voice are you hearing?
what is limiting you?
what present situation is drawing you back?
what are you feeding your spirit?
And above all,
How far can you see?
As far as you can see and know the word that God says about you, nothing can by any means limit you.

I hereby say a big thank you to the staff of Lagos State School of Nursing for this treasured experience and for humbling me with their love and acceptance.Also to my friends, you can be what you want to be God willing.

Give and it shall be giving unto you. In good measures, pressed down and running over shall men and women and the world will give back to you.

Thoughts, actions and Happy Endings

“Our wishes and prayers are only gratified when they are in harmony with our thoughts and action. “

Now, this month is so much fuss about love and being in love and expressing affection towards our loved ones.

I came across that quote during my study time and I thought to share something in line with it this love season.

We pray to God to give us a very good husband or the best wife. We know all there is to know about what the Bible say about marriage.

However, somewhere in our deepest thought we harbor fears and doubts and what ifs and uncertainties towards that union.

I have come to realize that what we fear the most is what we end up experiencing (your view may be different).

Where am I going with this, stay with me. Our mind is a canvas and we own the pencil to draw on it whatsoever we want to achieve in this life.

In the place of marriage, we need to be conscious of our thoughts because they give birth to our actions which may or may not be in sync with our prayers and wishes of the type of ending we look forward to.

So you see, it’s normal to harbor differences of opinion between a couple but if you truly want a happy ending, you must be able to answer this question:

“What am I feeding my spirit?”

Also, many factors play a huge role in how well or sweet a marriage can be. This stems majorly from our foundation. I never saw my mum and dad together except for once in my entire life and on my wedding day (although they love me so much and found their happiness ).

So daily I make a conscious effort not to allow their inability to impact on my capacity.

I choose to learn from around me, near and beyond.

I make sure I feed my spirit on what I want because my thoughts will birth my action which will in turn form a basis for the goodness I will enjoy in the place of prayer and thanksgiving.

Hence, It is possible to build something good when you find the person, being good or bad is a perception when it concerns humans. What matters is what you do to make the difference.

So think wisely and act accordingly.

The Holy Bible Needs No Charger

I know most of us have Bible Apps on our phone. The one we can quickly go to easily for a quick word of God. The flexibility of usage sometimes deprive us of a quiet meditation and reading of that word from the Book itself.

For me I find it convenient to use my phone app when in church or while I’m watching a sermon online because our teachers of the word are sometimes fast when preaching and we want to grasp as much from them as possible.

But you see, the downside of it is that , I get to text it quickly unto my phone, bookmark it onto my screen, in fact, I also highlight the Words in the Bible App for quick references (for those who know how to use it effectively).

But come to think of, if you do all this with the Bible itself, will you feel any difference? Can you see yourself flipping through pages and it’s like the Holy Spirit is speaking to you as you turn the page, from chapter to chapter.

While It is so amazing that we can actually get translational versions that is easy to understand and relate with. However, a personal time exploring the pages of the Bible has a better fulfillment pattern.

In fact the most advantage is that The Book itself, if effectively used can improve our reading skills, research methods, we can even key into the mystery of success principles, salvation miracles, undistracted by all the other activities going on in our phones .

I started with the Book, I am not going to let technology take it away from me, rather I will, with the use of the book, improve on how I use technology to study God’s word.

I am only sharing my thought, I still love my phone app but what happens when the battery isn’t fully charged, The Holy Bible needs no charger

Peace: Perfect or Imperfect

John 14:27 (New Living Translation)

I am leaving you with a gift–peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.

Re-reading this bible verse (it’s my hypnosis) again, I just laugh out loud because indirectly it has form the basis of my existence.

God definitely is a perfectionist!

When He gives a word He knows the human expectation, experience and adversity that comes with it. So he will always prepare us for the very best and worst situation we may encounter.

The Peace of God can be likened to a gift or a fruit. Gift appreciate, a fruit is a reward of the seed that was sown. So we can either look at the Peace of God as an investment that will appreciate over time or as reward of consistent habitation in the word of God. Whichever way you look at it: either as a gift or as a seed, one thing is constant- it is profitable.

In a world where fear of the unknown is a constant decimal. We need to consciously remind ourself of that word that God whispers into our hears when we listen to Him. There is a word for every life circumstances. We need to reach beyond the veil of fear and doubt to hear what the Spirit is saying.

So here I am again, reflecting on God’s faithfulness, an assurance of my faith. Here I am again remembering those convictions and with a believe that no matter what happens, the peace of God that is given as a gift is greater than any other gift the world can give.

Mind you, the world wraps it’s gifts in shimmering crystals and gold plate, but the gift of God comes as it is, wether crooked, frail, broken, or patched. To appreciate God kind of gift is to constantly draw from His rivers of living waters.

Every good and perfect gift is from God. Peace profound.

Void of words

It was a dark rainy Thursday morning, I was already looking forward to the weekend. It was the day before my wedding ceremony. I was going to marry the love of my life and I couldn’t wait any longer. The rain brought surreal memories because it reminded me of a devastating incident that happened to me 13 months ago.

‘Shikemi, you need to call Toba and ask him’. I mean, you can not continue to imagine that someone loves you just by his inaction! This guy hasn’t called you for over 3 weeks and you are here playing excuses in your head about him being busy?! – That is Nifemi, raining down bitter truth up on me.

Toba and I had what some people call ‘off and on’ relationship. We shared a lot of good and bad times and I’m sure I lost count of every moment of joy and sadness. He is that kind of guy that will bring down Zeus whenever he has done wrong just to appease me. I think I liked that about him.

He will always apologize for things he did and didn’t do Lool. But, that was not enough to lay a good foundation for our ‘situationship’. Toba has had his fair share of heart break and couldn’t bring himself to commit to another one. Even though it was obvious that we loved each other.

Fast forward, we went our separate ways in a beautiful way. I remembered we both arrived with parting gift at our dinner table (I think that gave us a good closure). For once, we spoke about our relationship and we were able to analyse why we couldn’t get married. Our love was too shallow, we were very ok at a distance but when we are together, it was like we brought the distance into the room.

Our imagination of our expectation was what kept us for two years and not our actual feeling or emotions. We would have continued like that if something inside of me, propelled by Nifemi ( my reality button) was not triggered to ask.

In my opinion, I think we are sometimes clouded by our imagination to the extend that it blinds us physically. We probably continue in that fragmentation without realizing that time waits for absolutely no one.

Well, like I mentioned earlier, it’s the last day of me being titled ‘Miss’. Cheers to forever.

To be continued…

The Sun, it’s shine and the shadows

When your light comes on, keep it shining. Do not allow yourself to dim your light. I have come to realize that external circumstances try to compel us to remain in the shadows. Remember you did not turn that inner light of yours on by yourself. The universe has conspired to light you up and shine you must!

Shadows are self doubt, unbelief, fear, cage, bondage, limitation, despondency, shame, in fact shadow is like a city. Do not go there! There is a way that seems right unto us sometimes, that road can be likened to all these negative feelings that we harbor. The Bible expressly mentioned that the end of such path is destruction. So, if you dwell in your shadows, you ultimately click the self-destruct button.

Now, shadows is not the same as a reflective period. Some people are in their reflective season and they end up entering into their shadows. A reflective season is that time of self-examination, mentorship, learning and unlearning, identifying weak spots and consciously addressing them. A reflective season is meant to charge you up for your light season. So do not confuse your season of correction to mean it’s a season where you have to hide.

My dear friend, I want to assure you that we are the light that need to keep shining and when dusk come, we can be at rest knowing that our Sun will come up again. So shine I must. Shine, you must.


Have you ever wondered how a collection of stones make up a rock? I was just thinking about it and it still marvels me.

I could remember when we were growing up, we used to play with stones. We gather about 5-6 tiny stones and throw them up to pick up another one and then throw it up again. I cant’t remember the title of that game. If you do remember, please mention in the comment section below. Growing up was actually fun. lol

Our fingers and hands get dirty but the lesson was that, we were practically learning the process of visual input to guide reaching out and grasping for things simultaneously. . In my opinion, a winner of that game has an understanding of eye-hand  coordination just by picking up stones, throwing it in the air, pick up another and collect the other one falling due to gravity. The use of that stone and our sensory organs (touch and sight)  determine the result of the game.

In reality, some people throw stones to hurt one another, while some other people gather stones to build up themselves. Some people discard stones while nature collects it to form a rock. Whichever way you look at it, it is serving a function: to build or to destroy. The focal point here is how are we using stones for our good?

Truthfully, we can liken stone to words or actions. The Bible expressly tells us  in the book of Psalm 118:22 and Jesus reminded us in Matthew 21:42 that the stones the builders rejected  became the chief corner stone. The amazing ending was were we were made to understand that it can only be God who can make that happen.

The stone of hurt you planted in another human heart can be redeemed by God. The stone of rejection can become acceptance. The stone of shame can lead to recognition.

Hence, the value of stone is in its use. How are you using your stones? Or are you a recipient of collecting hard knocks, stones being thrown at you and you don’t even know how to use it. Remember that, you don’t have to avoid stones being thrown at you, you can either collect it to build something useful, or collect it, to build your life.

In conclusion, do not avoid stones, they may hurt but they are serving a purpose. Collect them, make them work for your good and at the fullness of time,  the world will see you as a ‘Cornerstone’.

Buy Land

Often times, people ask us this nerve rattling question: What is your why? I can assure you that every time I was being asked that question, I had different answers but the summary still boils down to freedom. So, I asked myself, freedom from what exactly?!

When I was preparing to relocate to the United Kingdom to study Nursing, I remember my mum sat me down and began to advice me on what I should do once I begin to make money (lol) in a strange land. She was so insistent on me saving up money to come back to Nigeria to buy Land. Then, lands that were on sale were those in Ikorodu area of Lagos.

Most of my growing up years, I lived with my mum’s relatives and a few times my Dad’s. It was there I learnt interpersonal relationships, so I wasn’t used to having a proper home. Home to me then was my grandparents’ place in a remote area after Festac Town. If you ask me what was my definition of home. I would say anywhere  I am surrounded by my loved ones.

To me, home is not a location, it is my heart. Wherever I find happiness is home to me.

Upon reflection, I am sure my mum did not want me to grow up without owning something that I can call my own, to her it was investing in real estate. She meant very well and I’m grateful to God for my family.

On the other hand, real estate to me was for older adults, I was more inclined towards promoting my career by investing more in my education. Even when I had the money to spare, I didn’t (don’t be like me, God has been gracious ever since). I enrolled on training, short courses and write certification exams and the likes. For me, I  attaining the peak of career is very pivotal to my life success. Thankfully, I did and still not relenting. I believe, achieving success in one’s passionate field will motivate one to achieve more in any other field.

Today, I’m glad I followed my heart because it indirectly led me towards real estate eventually. That, is a story for another day.

So, ask yourself, what am I investing in, what story will I write about myself or what will be said of me. If someone ask you What is your Why, what will be your respoonse?